Partner vs. Girlfriend

Words are so interesting. They take several forms to every single person. If someone says the word “tree”, I might picture something completely different than someone else and that in itself makes a meaning.

Let’s discuss the word partner. It is a word that is gender-neutral in saying boyfriend or girlfriend. Such as the phrase significant other.

My Partner or also my girlfriend was talking to a woman about the Vagina Monologues. My partner was discussing that I was interested in getting involved. My partner described me as her “girlfriend” but the person thought she meant a friend that is a girl but if she would have said partner then they would have understood.

If you try to be gender-neutral and say Partner people automatically think you are in a same sex relationship but if you say Girlfriend then you mean a friend. What is wrong with the world and who calls there friends girlfriends?

Answer: Lots of people.

Sexual Harassment “Training”

Yesterday I completed a web-training assessment on sexual harassment. It was a well done training compared to some of the ones I have heard about in other companies and universities.

One of the first problems with the training that caught my eye was the fact that the person being harassed is instructed to confront the person who is making them feel “uncomfortable”. They also said that this should be done in private. Again, let’s think about this statement. If someone is making you feel uncomfortable, confronting them and telling them to stop is not such an easy task. Basically, if someone doesn’t tell the person or persons to stop, then they cannot claim sexual harassment because they have not made it clear that they are uncomfortable. In my opinion this policy is hurting people who are being sexually harassed but are afraid to speak up. Speaking from experience, confronting someone (who in most cases in a job setting is your superior) is easier said than done.

Hmm, Why is sexism everywhere?

l<– this is an ovary. put this in your profile if you know some stupid drama queen that needs her’s punched.

I just copied and pasted this from someone’s AIM account profile. It was at the bottom of the page and the 1 that you see is a pink dot on the profile.

Let’s think for a moment. Ok, time is up. How is this not sexist and falling into the stereotypes that is the face of our society?

What makes me even more upset is the fact that this was in a female’s profile. Should I be surprised?

Finally being an adult

Everyday I wake up, lay there for several seconds, finally get up, and eventually leave my apartment thinking that I am ready for the new day ahead. The minute I step outside, I am greeted by the wonderful trees, the beautiful fresh air, and some squirrels. I get into my car, drive my partner to school and then until recently, went back home and sat in front of the computer, put on NPR, and stared at my feline soul-mate.

Now, I have a new job and well, was on a week of Thanksgiving.

I realized so much from just a week. I realized that no matter how much my family might not agree with me or me not agree with them; they will be there. I realized that the friends I made in Indiana and the memories I have created there make me smile. I also realized that no matter how much you want to change, sometimes you just need to act.

My whole life my parents always told me that I would talk the talk but never walk the walk. I guess I did not understand until this moment. I have changed a lot over the last 2 years but one thing that I still have trouble with is taking the talk and putting it into action. You maybe can procrastinate on homework or filing some paperwork, but life never stops. Everyday we grow older, we make events, and we have to take the steps. No one can ever take them for us. I have taken many steps, even ones I was afraid of but at this very moment as I am typing into this space on the World Wide Web, I can feel my stomach turn because tomorrow is a new day and I keep asking myself;”Will I be able to finally walk the walk?”

First Day on the Job…

I started my new job today! I feel like this one will definitely help me figure out what I want to do in life. I am tired and about to go read some Monkey Wrench Gang. I will write more tomorrow so I can update about finishing the final installment of Harry Potter and life in a new place.

Oh, and did everyone hear? Dumbledore is gay!


I now have a Flickr account and have some pictures up. It you want to check it out it is on the Blog roll. At your right. I will updating more throughout the week.

I would like to thank my good friends Anne and Wilson the Cat for making it possible for me to take digital pictures! Oh, and going out of there way to go to the library for me.

Happy World Vegan Day!

Now, I am no extremist and PETA is not an organization for me but I do believe that being Vegetarian and/or Vegan can and will help the planet. November 1st is World Vegan Day

I am currently a vegetarian and so is my Partner. (Credits to my Partner for being a vegetarian for over 4 years) I do eat fish, which many cannot find Vegetarian but it is not a main staple of my eating. I am vegetarian because of the positive affects for my health and environmentally.

Point is, that everyone should take some type of challenge to themselves and stop eating meat for a month or maybe just a week. It can make a difference(*large thumbs up and a cheesy smiling face).

p.s.- October 1st is World Vegetarian Day

Fucked up movie…Happy Halloween!

It is Halloween already and tomorrow starts November. Crazy how quickly the year 2007 has past.

Last night, my Partner and I went and saw a movie called Eraserhead by David Lynch.

It is the most fucked up and disturbing movie I have seen. Eraserhead is a movie you see once and never again. The imagery is very graphic.

Now, I sit here with a disturbing movie in my head, an interview at 2pm, and the worst crank in my neck. My neck is killing me.


More on my PA life…

I finally ordered the digital card reader for the digital camera that I have barely used due to the fact that I have to transfer the pictures to my computer.

I finally ordered my Luna Pads and am very excited for their arrival!

I finally bought a clipper set for home haircuts and my Partner and I buzzed my hair very short on Sunday night. (pictures will come soon)

On Saturday night, my Partner and I dressed up as Peace and Quiet for a Halloween Party. I was a mime, she was a hippie.(hopefully more pictures of that as well)

I have been taking more film pictures lately, which I am adoring.

I think today I will type some letters and read.

Oh, and last night I saw The Darjeeling Limited by Wes Anderson! If you love his stuff, you will love his films, check it out.-Website

That is all the update for now…stayed tuned for more.